Everybody else seemed to have their act together.
They wore the right clothes, drove the right cars and said the right things.
I wanted to be "successful" like everyone else.
But instead I was the loser.
I was never good enough.
I never had enough bankroll, brains or beauty to compete with them.
But it didn't stop me from trying.
Yet trying to improve myself didn't make me better.
It only made me more envious.
When I finally earned enough money to buy the right clothes, they couldn't cover up the insecurity hiding deep inside.
Reading books and seeking knowledge didn't make me any wiser or eloquent.
Moving to the right neighborhood didn't move the discontent out of my heart.
I could dress up and act the part, and whether others played along with the charade or not, I still knew I wasn't good enough.
After many failed attempts at improving myself, I still hadn't found the magic formula to make me feel like I was "good enough."
When does the quest for self-improvement end?
Who defines what is "enough?"
It took me many years to learn that efforts of self-improvement are doomed to failure.
I finally found true help is available, but only to those who stop fooling themselves.
Only to those who admit that God doesn't help those who help themselves.
WHO DO SELF-HELP PROGRAMS HELP?
Sadly, women are the main target audience of self-help programs.
Are women more vain than men, or more gullible?
In 2011, the estimated profits of the self-help industry was valued at over $11 BILLION in the United States alone!
That was nearly a decade ago. It would seem that with so much self-help information available over so much time, people would be happy and productive by now. But no, the self-help industry is still growing. How is that possible?
Because self-help programs don’t really help people.
Self-help programs are supposed to improve people physically, mentally, financially or spiritually. Just give them your money and you'll be golden.
But does having a PhD, wearing a size 4 dress and sitting on a million dollars literally improve a woman?
She is a lean, intelligent millionaire but will she ever have enough money to buy spirituality?
Could that be the one thing everyone needs most, yet never be able to afford?
What kinds of help are people really looking for?
People want these intangible things and try to find them in a 20 disc DVD course promising everything they ever wanted in life.
Advertisers appeal to the consumer's desire for the perfect life by telling them how imperfect they are and persuade them that no matter how much they have, it's never enough.
The self-help gurus will convince people that they are miserable, even if they are smart, fit and rich.
Miserable people are willing to spend big money to rescue themselves from their discontentment.
But after spending so much money on trying to purchase happiness and approval, why are they still miserable?
Why do some people spend so much time and money searching for what seems impossible to gain?
Because they are foolish enough to think they can create it by themselves.
The culture promises that if they try hard enough, they can achieve anything they want.
If people would take the time to consider what they are really looking for and where they are seeking it, they might see the fallacy.
But they don't want to see it.
Their vision is clouded by the perfect life the self-improvement gurus promise, even though it's impossible to obtain.
When you look at the definition of the phrase “self-help” it becomes almost laughable that people would spend money on products that promise to supply something that the person wants, but can’t seem to get through his own efforts.
Dictionary.com defines self help as: noun
--the use of one's own efforts and resources to achieve things without relying on others.
Merriam Webster dictionary defines self help as: noun
--the action or process of bettering oneself or overcoming one's problems without the aid of others; especially, the coping with one's personal or emotional problems without professional help.
Why would people spend billions of dollars a year “buying” somebody else’s help to help themselves? Do you see the irony?
WHAT ARE SELF-HELP SCHEMES?
Although the self-help industry is rapidly growing, it’s nothing new. It really started with a culture shift that began a few hundred years ago.
The word “self-help” didn’t come on the scene until 1831 following the “Age of Enlightenment.” This was an intellectual and scientific movement of 18th century Europe which was characterized by a rational and scientific approach to religious, social, political, and economic issues.
European politics, philosophy, science and communications were radically reoriented during the course of the “long 18th century” (1685-1815) as part of a movement referred to by its participants as the Age of Reason, or simply the Enlightenment.
This little bit of history may seem trivial, but with the Enlightenment, man lost sight of the whole purpose of life.
Gradually, the philosophy of the Enlightenment made its way around the world and is more acceptable now, even within so called “Christian” circles.
Self-help programs are nothing more than counterfeit gods.
The goal of the self-help philosophy is to replace God with science, which helps us see why the “self-help” industry is so popular.
The “enlightened” ones rely on “reason” and only believe what they experience with their senses.
But happiness is an intangible thing.
It is spiritual in nature--just like God!
It’s invisible, cannot be touched, smelled or tasted, and cannot be identified or re-created with the scientific method.
Which is why the search for happiness is so elusive--nobody seems to know what it really is.
So the self-help gurus make it up as they go, pandering to the perceived needs of their customers.
And without these, you aren’t happy, you aren’t anybody, and you aren’t worthwhile.
The self-help hoax says that having things and doing things will make you happy about your “self” and give meaning to your life.
It promises you a “self” you can approve of.
SELF-HELP FOR CHRISTIANS
Life was never meant to be about “self.”
Man was not created to be a self-focused being, but a God-focused being. God created man to have a loving, fulfilling, content, joyful, peaceful, secure relationship with his Creator.
It was when Adam focused on him “self” and decided to make decisions for him “self” that he thought would benefit him “self” that he rejected God and everything God had planned for him.
He wanted to be his own god, the god of “self.” And in choosing his own way, he lost the privilege to have his life fulfilled by God.
He was now going to have to find fulfillment for him “self.”
But because he wasn’t designed for that, he did not have within him “self” the ability for it.
Adam opened the door of unhappiness and misery invaded the world. To this day, all mankind is born to suffer anguish and hardship in one way or another.
It is the biblical explanation of why there is no such thing as self-help.
When people try to create something within themselves that they don’t have power to create, they will remain miserable and forever be chasing after the next self-help program, wasting time, energy and money on trying to buy happiness.
SELF-HELP IS A DECEPTIVE SHAM
All self-help programs are nothing more than schemes peddling false hope as a prescription for happiness.
The hope offered in self-help programs is false because no program can produce meaning and happiness.
It only feeds the monster of discontent within people, which means they will buy more programs, and the cycle continues, and the self-help gurus grow richer!
It's time for you to break this vicious cycle of hope, disappointment, hope, disappointment, etc.
If your situation seems hopeless, I’m here to tell you, it is! As long as you try to improve yourself into something better, you will only suffer more disappointment.
Whenever your hope is in your “self” you will be disappointed.
THE ONLY HELP YOU'LL EVER NEED
You will not be disappointed if you turn to the Only One who offers true hope.
Turn to the God who made you and knows everything about you and let Him change you from the inside-out.
You can’t improve yourself enough to find fulfillment in yourself or any other created thing.
But God can be your help, your hope, and your happiness.
If God can change water to wine, He can change you from helpless to hopeful.
God will fulfill His plans in you and help you experience the true meaning of life--knowing Him and finding fulfillment in Him!
God offers hope not only for life in this world filled with disappointment, but also for eternity in heaven, where you will not just be good enough, but perfect!
The “self” in self-help is the problem!
God is the solution!
Behold, God is my helper; The LORD is the sustainer of my soul.
If you've lost hope, it can be restored!
Grab the free guide and allow God to give you the peace, joy and contentment the self-help gurus only dream of.
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